It amazes me how much my 100% support means to my DH and how gigantic of a difference even 1% of un-support makes. I have been supporting him, in the way I thought he needed, and didn’t listen to when he told me he needed something different.
His work situation is extremely unfair. They treat him very poorly. He is unappreciated and gets no thanks for going out of his way to help those around him, for going the extra 5 miles and for being nice. He gets reprimanded when others are more in the wrong and when he’s done nothing wrong. He is the youngest of the three maintenance guys, but has seniority as he’s been there the longest. He has a family to support and can’t just walk away from the position. He has looked for work elsewhere and the doors have been firmly closed.
We decided last time things got heated at work, that the mistreatment needed to stop, not only for Jason, but for other current and future employees. At this point, I believe the decision is to formally document each injustice by writing a letter to be put in his personnel file (and we will keep a copy).
The latest issue is over on-call. He gets called every weekend, when they are to be rotating every three weekends! He feels as if they expect him to be available 24/7, no matter what. He has been reprimanded for showing up late (half an hour or so) due to prior obligations – it was his weekend off and he made plans. He’s gotten in trouble for not answering his phones, but last weekend the on-call guy didn’t answer his phones, so Jason had to go do the job. The on-call guy sort of got a talking to and Jason got no thanks and in fact got talked to about being in a fuss about having to go in.
Please continue to pray. Pray for me that I will support him 100% in the way he needs me to to feel supported by me. Pray that Jason will be willing to allow another couple to come along and support the both of us and that the couple will be willing to do so. Pray that Jason will say and do the right things to continue to be a Christ-like example in an unfair situation, and yet not allow himself to be trampled on. Oh, and that we will make time for the two of us, as we found out last night we need that so especially right now!
We’ve been through tough things before. We will get through this. But it is very very hard, very stressful and so tough to see your man treated so poorly. I want to fight and be angry!
We are trying hard to give this problem over to God, to allow him to work on the hearts of all involved. This type of behavior at J’s workplace has been going on for many years which makes our “job” of changing things that much harder. We don’t see the big picture; we want to, we think. And yet, if it’s gonna get worse, I don’t want to know that, cuz I’d probably quit now.
Situations like this can really put a damper on everyday life. It’s inspirational to see your faith in God…and maybe that is just how God is using you. To show the people who know you or who stop by and read your blog…that even when things go down, keep your faith and focus on him. Great Job!